I am at a point in my life where I should be more comfortable in my own skin; however, I still struggle with body image and the fact that I am aging. What society thinks is "beautiful" can put a little pressure on one's self-perception. These days, whether it’s someone you follow on one of the social networks or someone you deeply admire, it's hard NOT to compare yourselves to these people..
Oh those beauty standards...
One example is when you see someone with an amazing, out-of-this-world physique on Instagram and you think “oh my gosh I want to have her body!” But, in reality, the person you’re seeing is posing uncomfortably - sticking her butt out so that her waist appears smaller and her bottom looks more full and shapely. I’ve done enough photoshoots, where I see the model pose in an unnatural way to exaggerate their features and, many times, it looks amazing in the final photos.
All the same!
Wearing the same top but packing on a few extra lbs....
Self-perception can be a b*tch!
Friends and/or family that tell you you’re anything less are not who you should be around and it’s ok to disassociate yourself from them. Most likely, they are hurting and need to find a way to help themselves. Those that hide behind a computer screen and decide to be cruel are also going through some kind of struggle but you have the luxury of the “delete” button. You shouldn’t have to deal with small-minded people.
We are Beautiful, in every single way
It’s unlikely you will gain the confidence in a short span of time. It takes experience and a realization to recognize your self-worth and to accept yourself as you are. I am constantly trying to work on self-improvement because I want to be the best I can be by facing my faults and insecurities head-on while handling it all with grace.
I hope that we all can one day see the beauty in ourselves as well as the unique qualities we each possess...traits we might see in a good friend. So be good to yourself and to each other.
~ XOXO, Mari